As you grow into higher consciousness, you will become aware of the many ways in which you have been involved in complex role playing, with hidden “should s” and “shouldn't s” that create complicated patterns of demanding and expectation. You can work effectively toward the “us” space when you genuinely and openly communicate your feelings and reveal the security, sensation, and power dance that you have been doing. You will find that you can usually cut through these ensnaring dramas by expressing your preferences clearly to yourself and others. You will realize that open communication of your innermost feelings helps your ego (and the egos of other people) to get free of addictive programming which in the long run only produces unhappiness and alienation.
~Ken Keyes Jr.~
Extracted From: Handbook To Higher Consciousness.